A Young depress female student at the co

TEEN GIRLS

"No one knows the real me."

Parents, lately she's shutting you out. You used to be able to talk about pretty much anything. These days? Something is clearly up with her but she won't crack. You can see her digging herself into a hole but she doesn't listen to you. She's not even acting like herself anymore. You want to help her but sometimes it's just so exasperating to interact with her. You get that she's a teenager and her feelings come on hard and strong, but when they affect the rest of the family, it's just not okay.

Teens, you know something's up and you're not handling things like you used to. Maybe you've thought about talking to your parents but you already know what they're going to say, and it's not that helpful. Plus, thinking about talking to them or your friends just makes you feel like you'll be a burden. I mean, they all have their own shit they're dealing with. Your friends usually come to you with their problems. What if they found out that you didn't feel all that together either? Maybe that'd be embarrassing or terrifying. Maybe they'd see that you're just faking it. Why does it seem like everyone else is having the typical, fun high school life they're "supposed to" be having while you're stuck trying to deal with these annoying, stressful, bad feelings and thoughts?

There is so much happening in these 4 years. It's fast and it's intense. It's also confusing and overwhelming. Often, we don't have time to sit back, look at the bigger picture and take it all in before saying or doing things. It's like we get spit out at the tail end of a situation before we can even actually grasp that something is happening. Yet, after these 4 years we move on to college and adulthood and somehow we're supposed to know how to do this. That sounds like an insane expectation and ohmygodhowamIgoingtodothat?? 

This is where therapy can be really helpful. It can be an arena to unpack all of this baggage and try to understand it better, make some connections between what's going on inside us and what's going on in our relationships and other activities. It's a place where nothing is expected of you. You can slow down and practice letting it go and letting it out. A therapist isn't your parent and isn't going to react the same way to the things you share but they can also see some things that same-age peers can miss. And it's nice to talk to someone who talks to other people your age dealing with similar things. It can remind you that you're actually not such a weirdo and you're definitely not alone. Because if nothing else, what I want you to know is that it's not just you. Pinky swear.

 
A Young depress female student at the co

TEEN GIRLS

"No one knows the real me."

Parents, lately she's shutting you out. You used to be able to talk about pretty much anything. These days? Something is clearly up with her but she won't crack. You can see her digging herself into a hole but she doesn't listen to you. She's not even acting like herself anymore. You want to help her but sometimes it's just so exasperating to interact with her. You get that she's a teenager and her feelings come on hard and strong, but when they affect the rest of the family, it's just not okay.

Teens, you know something's up and you're not handling things like you used to. Maybe you've thought about talking to your parents but you already know what they're going to say, and it's not that helpful. Plus, thinking about talking to them or your friends just makes you feel like you'll be a burden. I mean, they all have their own shit they're dealing with. Your friends usually come to you with their problems. What if they found out that you didn't feel all that together either? Maybe that'd be embarrassing or terrifying. Maybe they'd see that you're just faking it. Why does it seem like everyone else is having the typical, fun high school life they're "supposed to" be having while you're stuck trying to deal with these annoying, stressful, bad feelings and thoughts?

There is so much happening in these 4 years. It's fast and it's intense. It's also confusing and overwhelming. Often, we don't have time to sit back, look at the bigger picture and take it all in before saying or doing things. It's like we get spit out at the tail end of a situation before we can even actually grasp that something is happening. Yet, after these 4 years we move on to college and adulthood and somehow we're supposed to know how to do this. That sounds like an insane expectation and ohmygodhowamIgoingtodothat?? 

This is where therapy can be really helpful. It can be an arena to unpack all of this baggage and try to understand it better, make some connections between what's going on inside us and what's going on in our relationships and other activities. It's a place where nothing is expected of you. You can slow down and practice letting it go and letting it out. A therapist isn't your parent and isn't going to react the same way to the things you share but they can also see some things that same-age peers can miss. And it's nice to talk to someone who talks to other people your age dealing with similar things. It can remind you that you're actually not such a weirdo and you're definitely not alone. Because if nothing else, what I want you to know is that it's not just you. Pinky swear.